Friday, January 18, 2008

Wicked Mentality

Ms. Somegirl: “Men are so easy…”

Finndistan :“Depends on the context… We can be easy, very easy, or we can be impossible”

Ms. Somegirl: “No. Men are easy.”

Finndistan: “Ask your friend over here”.. I turn to the single mom “What you think? Are men easy if you want more than sex?”

Ms. Singlemom: “No. Men are so difficult.. I cannot find a man.”

Finndistan: “How old were you? 31?”

Ms. Singlemom: “32”

Finndistan: “Two kids?”

Ms. Singlemom: “Yes, 5, 13”

Finndistan: “Two fathers?” sidenote: at this point I am playing the guessing game

Ms. Singlemom: “Yes”

Finndistan: “Father of the first is an asshole, and he does not help your raise the kid?”

Ms. Singlemom: “Yes.. He was an asshole.”

Finndistan: “Father of the second is also an asshole?”

Ms. Singlemom: “No, he is my best friend.”

Finndistan: “And you are looking for a long term man.”

Ms. Singlemom: “Ooooohhhh… Sooo difficult. I so much want a man to take care of me…. But men are afraid”

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You know, I am not going into the point of a man’s view too much, or at least try not to…

After saying that I am sad for what I heard, she seemed like a likable person…. Let me rant:

Ladies… Please… Please…
What is this entitlement syndrome we see here?
Little princess got knocked up by two different guys… Did not manage/want a relationship with any of them, - no, men are not the only responsible one for a broken relationship - and now is looking for a man to take care of her and two kids, one of who she calls “a crazy girl like me”, who will never accept this guy as a dad with authority over her..

This relationship is mental and financial suicide for any man in her “possible husband” target group, who is heroic enough, or in other words, stupid enough to indulge into this kind of insanity… For a woman who will almost always side with her kids against the father, if the situation arises.

A man who is ready to invest his limited money, energy, and more importantly his not renewable limited source of time, into raising the sperm of other men. This goes against any instinct the man has. Under forty years of age, a man that accepts this is taking a big risk, and is also doing the woman a huge favor. Now, there is also a high possibility that this woman will not appreciate that act….

Added to that, she thinks she is entitled to have a man take up the mess and clean it???

Yes, I do assume there is a mess somewhere…

I may sound harsh, I will not apologize. If this disturbs you, suck it up..

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A similar story, different girl:

“Yea, am staying at my friend’s place.. The boys are at their grandma…”

“Boys?”

“I got two sons…”

“Your husband?”

“No.. I have no man..”

“The boys fathers?”

“They are not with me…” notice : they

“Must be difficult…”

“Not too bad… Now I am looking for the man of my life..”

“So now, you’re looking for the man of your life?”

“Yep. The man of my life… nobody around though”


My comment will be same as above. As an addition,

“nobody around” = highly possible she is overpricing herself out of the market.

I may sound harsh, I will not apologize. If this disturbs you, suck it up...

5 comments:

  1. And what about men with kid(s) and they looking for a woman of their life? There are almost always two parents, right?

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  2. The image you are giving of men is pathetic. Really, a real man doesn't consider children as sperm. For a real man it's not that difficult to be an adult friend to a child that's not his. A wise man understands that this kind of things are just that difficult as adults make them. And he will be happy because he won't pass the woman of his life just because she's got a child. In this case, there are more wise women than men, I guess?
    Oh dear, I feel so sorry for those narrow-minded men. Luckily, I know, there are a lot of wise men too. Don't you know couple of them too?

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  3. "And what about men with kid(s) and they looking for a woman of their life? There are almost always two parents, right?"

    Men do not generally have this mentality of deserving someone special. There is a difference between this and the women I have written about.

    In addition, in most of the cases the woman has the major custodial role (sadly, more often than assumed, against the wishes of the father), so the children are a bigger burden on her side than they are on the man's.

    And, good luck to both sexes. Hope they find what they are loking for...

    ...then know how to value it.

    Endnote: I should read the laws in finland about alimony and divorce settlements before I write this, but in countries where there is alimony etc., the baggage actually is not a man's children, but an ex wife.

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  4. To the second poster.

    One, this is a female talking.

    The used language which I will quote to give my answers sentence by sentence just tells me that. Nothing wrong with a female commenter of course.

    "The image you are giving of men is pathetic."

    Dont try to shame me. The image I give is not pathetic, it is a person who respects his nature and one of his foremost needs. You call it pathetic for the sole reason that it does not serve your purpose. A man who has preferences in a woman is not pathetic, he is picky.

    "Really, a real man doesn't consider children as sperm."

    Real man. Hmmm... More intended shaming. Who are you to define what a real man is? Maybe we should let the men decide what it is to be "real man"..??? Well, let's call sperm blodline. And yes, a man considers his children to be HIS legay, HIS blodline... Not some other dude from his lady's past.

    And bloodline.. That feeling of blooline is what has created civilizations, and that is what has caused men so readily to give their lives in wars for the protection of their offspring and women.

    Take that away... you take his existence away..

    Oh sorry, "Real men" dont need that.

    "For a real man it's not that difficult to be an adult friend to a child that's not his"

    I accept. But for the child it is said to take two years to accept the man as some kind of autority figure.

    A man must love a woman a lot, to undergo that.

    "A wise man understands that this kind of things are just that difficult as adults make them. "

    A wise woman knows that her choices have consequences.

    "And he will be happy because he won't pass the woman of his life just because she's got a child. "

    This was a side concept in the storz. I was mainly talking about the entitlement the women showed.

    And, men need to be as pragmatic as women in these things. Not thin with their dicks.

    "In this case, there are more wise women than men, I guess?"

    Women and men in these caes have very different controlling condtions, so the fact that they make different choices also is based on the fact that they start off at different conditions. Comparing oranges to apples, you cannot say which one is wiser. You can say which one you sympathize more, and why.

    "Oh dear, I feel so sorry for those narrow-minded men."

    Shamin shaming...

    Narrow minded because they do not require any responibility from the woman on her choices.. Wow... I thought that as being an adult. Responsibility.

    "Luckily, I know, there are a lot of wise men too. "

    Glad I am not close with any of the men labeled "wise" by this mentality.

    "Don't you know couple of them too?"

    I know...

    Some are honest bachelors liing their life to fullest,

    Some are good fathers good husbands living their life to fullest, respecting their family and people around them.

    All these men hold themselves to high standards, and thus expect high standards from their surroundings.

    And if the bachelors one day decide that the kid of woman is not problem, they will be good fathers to that kid.

    But if they decide that they want to spend their life raisig their own bloodline, that will be their preference, and their way of being evolutionarily wise.

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  5. Too many typos in the previous comment...

    Need to change my keyboard.

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