Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Smelly Media: Your body your choice, at least pay for it



More Mums-To-Be Go It Alone


Every year hundreds of Finnish women decide to have a child without a partner,
with the help of fertility treatments. The treatments, which cost thousands
of euros, are given at private fertility clinics because public health care
in Finland no longer wants to support lone mums-to-be.

In a country of 5.000.000 that is a staggering number. 

And the language is upright manipulative.

It is not "decide to have a child without a partner",

It is "Decide to have a child without a father"

It is to decide to bring an orphan to the world, whose (right to a)father was killed denied by the mother.

And once again, why should the welfare state provide for the thousands of euros of treatment for sperm than can be gotten at any library, coffee shop, social gathering etc for free?

You want sperm, but you don't want a man? Then my lady you have no right to be a mother.*


A majority of private fertility clinics say that the number of women having
children alone has gone up. Women wanting to use donor sperm in order to get
pregnant are usually well over 30 years of age and reasonably well-off.


So the kid will be born to an older mother.

When the kid is 20, what will the woman be? 60? 70? Without a father, and possibly without siblings, who has the right to put the child through that?

A woman.

A woman's wishes trumps everything.

She wants. She is given. We all suffer for it.


The decision to have a baby alone is usually made after much thought and
deliberation. Treatments are expensive with no support from social services.
Some women end up having more than one attempt of fertilisation before
becoming pregnant so the pressure is huge.

Library.

Sports centre.

Temporary gym.

Social settings.

Temporary church.

Bar, club, coffee, dicotheque, sex holiday...

But no...

We should pay because the ladies are too valuable to put a cock in their babytunnel.

Something which they possibly have done in their wild youth anyway. But now they are holy. Holy moly.


”It was surprisingly stressful as I didn’t get pregnant after my first course
of treatments. The disappointment was huge as I wanted another child so
badly.”

She wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants
she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants
she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants
she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants
she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants
she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants she wants
she wants she wants she wants she wants...

Like many women in her situation, Anja has sought support from an internet
forum aimed for women having children alone. These women often face harsh
criticism from other mums and society.

Well... 

Single motherhood is the number one factor, when all other factors are considered for the child to be a criminal, delinguent, with social/psychological problems, misfit, underachiever, welfare recipient, in jail, also number one factor in the child ending up dead or abused;

So maybe folk wisdom has a point in keeping a father in the picture.

But yea, we know, fathers are found in fertility clinics, and the society should pay because family life without a father is oh oh oh oh so difficult.



”I really hope we can slowly let go of the old family model where there is a
mum, a dad and children. Because not everyone fits into this model”, Anja
says.

Have you asked the child if it wants to grow up without a Daddy?
Have you asked the child if it wants to grow up without a Daddy?
Have you asked the child if it wants to grow up without a Daddy?
Have you asked the child if it wants to grow up without a Daddy?
Have you asked the child if it wants to grow up without a Daddy?
Have you asked the child if it wants to grow up without a Daddy?
Have you asked the child if it wants to grow up without a Daddy?
Have you asked the child if it wants to grow up without a Daddy?
Have you asked the child if it wants to grow up without a Daddy?

Where does the child's rights, wishes, and welfare fit into your model? Do they exist?


* When I was in Iceland, I read this report where an Icelandic woman who had AIDS wanted to have a baby, and her doctor told her
"I told her that she has a right to have a baby"

No she does not. She has a responsibility to the baby, not a right to be a mother. Motherhood is not a right.

A mother who has AIDS has a right to a baby.

Had Sodom and Gomorrah fallen this far before they got destroyed?




2 comments:

  1. Well written article, excellent. Words cannot express....

    ”I really hope we can slowly let go of the old family model where there is a
    mum, a dad and children. Because not everyone fits into this model”

    Translation; please don't judge me nor remind me of the ramifications of being a single mother. I really want to be one...I really...really...really do.

    Does she want to be visiting her child in jail or in the morgue?

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  2. What happens to her child is of no concern to her.

    She wants, she is given.

    See: The woman with AIDS who has a right to be a mother.

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