My no-porn time continues, sadly I have had relapses with erotic photo galleries, and every time that happens, the effect is clear. Loss of motivation, in life, in gym, with women with friends, and other aspects. A brain fog, and a kind of fatigue of my soul. Definitely not once a week, and is happening rarer and rarer and takes shorter, still way too often and way too long.
This weekend had a chat with a drunk friend about porn,
Coincidentally, Free Northerner links to a piece about the effect of porn on women, men and relationships.
Back to my chat with my friend.
"I'll go home and watch some porn"
"Don't"
"What?"
"Don't watch porn."
"But it is relaxing"
"No. It is the illusion"
"I like to see naked women"
"You are watching another man fuck a woman you'd like to fuck"
"..."
"You are jerking off to another man's dick pummeling the pussy you want to pummel"
"Man I have never been without porn for more than two weeks"
"So you don't know a life without porn"
Interlude: I know a life without porn and this is why now I decide no porn or no erotica for October, fuck that, for November and December too.
"But man, it is good to watch some porn and jerking off before the date"
"Jerk off, don't watch porn"
And then the link of Free Northerner comes in,
How men watching porn hurts women. Not women watching porn, men watching porn.
Who the fuck cares how porn hurts women...
First answer for the damage that has been done by romance novels. Their unrealistic experiences. Their impossible to attain standards. The white knight in a leather jacket arrives on a motorcycle. He is a bad boy. But he likes her. He is a vampire. But he does not bite her. He smashes fifteen skulls, but makes sure she does not see this brutality, she only knows it. Betrays everyone in sight but not her. Has a sixpack but can take her out to eat pizza in a candlelit diner where the staff are all vampires but out of fear from him, do not drink her dead. Can lift a horse, but never has had to work for his strength. Has time to learn to wield the sword, read thousand classics, and still take her out on romantic flights around the city during sunrise. Vampire, but the sun does not affect him. Because. Because. Of her love.
Aye. Not damaging.
Husband works ten hours to bring bread to home. No vampire. No flight. No choice not to drink her blood.
Oh, ho, and Fifty Shits of Grey... Reading it, wanting it, and then crying for the police when the boyfriend looks at her the wrong way...
No.
I don't fucking care what men's usage of porn does to women.
Women got bigger sins to answer for.
But for men:
Can a man understand this:
"You are jerking off to watching another man fucking a woman instead of you"
"You are jerking off watching someone else's hard throbbing cock going in an out of the pink pussy you want your average cock to go in and out of"
The perversion?
I have been with porn since age eleven.
Age thirty four I realized the damage it had done to me.
If someone had uttered me the words I wrote up there, my life could have taken a different route.
But no. The most intellectual warning we got was "Masturbation will make you blind"
Fuck you.
See, with porn:
You go on a date having your dick esteem screwed to the ground by watching a big dick pummel a tight pussy. Not your dick. The only reason you seem relaxed about sex with the girl is that you have no confidence that you can pummel her as good as that large cock you just saw.
With porn, your energy is drained.
With porn your strength is drained.
Your willpower is totally decimated.
Your view of women is mutated.
Everyone but me.
Every girl, without me.
What if i am not ten centimeters thick and half a meter long?
It is not just in the head, it is in the body.
Your smell changes. Yes, tried.
You posture changes.
Your stride changes.
Your animal inside you is killed.
The balls are torn off.
The dick is cut.
That is what you are willingly doing to yourself when watching porn.
Yes, you seem relaxed when you meet the girl, but can you separate the knowledge that you jerked of to some other hard throbbing dick because you were afraid of the animal in you, because you were afraid of her reaction, because you were a pussy, a pussy not deserving to be pummeled by the hard throbbing dick...
Porn just has killed the man in your soul.
But everyone does it.
So?
Have you tried?
Do you have a comparison point?
Without porn,
You create energy
You grow strength
You are one with nature
You are one with the woman you are fucking
You cherish the woman, her little human flaws, her smell, her smile, her wetness
Your dick could hold your national flag on a Bofor 12 storm
When you jerk off, you jerk off to your own experience, to your own imagined experience. To your own dick.
Your smell changes. Yes, tried.
You know you can stand up and carry the girl with your dick, if that is what you want.
Your willpower increases
Your posture rises
Your stride strengthens
Your dick feels like one meter thick and three meters long
Your will to meet women increases
Your will to fuck women increases
Your actions to fulfill these will increase
The results increase
Your creativity connects with the Muse
Your productivity connects with the Gods
Your life connects with life
The animal inside you is alive
The balls feed the dick
The dick looks up to his master
...Proud and willing to serve
Dude I second everything you wrote here, but your neglecting to mention the most damaging effects of porn that is; erectile dysfunction, total loss of libido and a decent into sick, sick fetishes. Please take a look at this site for further education:
ReplyDeletehttp://yourbrainonporn.com/
The terrifying fact is that there is a legion of young men with chronic erectile dysfunction and a myriad of other sexual problems, physical and psychological on account of the fact that nobody EVER told us that any problems could come from compulsive masturbation and porn addiction. Using myself as an example, I'm 25, an omega virgin, and a porn addict with erectile dysfunction. Even though I have virtually no sex drive left, I still jack my limp cock off to unimaginably sick porn. All I can get off on is interracial cuckolding porn, mother son incest and adult breastfeeding. I've been through a few month long stints without porn, but I keep coming back to it. The potential damaging effects of porn and masturbation NEED to become common knowledge. SPREAD THE FUCKING WORD!
Believe me if you like. I suggest you do. Religious or not. Good and Evil are real. Attractions like the ones you have are demonic, evil, opposite of good. Whether you believe in God or not. I suggest you rid yourself of that demonic attraction. Cast it way, cast it out. Separate from it. May sound like religious garbage, but it works. I tried it. Yes I believe in God, in Christ, more importantly, in the Power of Christ. And yes in His name the sick addiction can leave you. With a combination of your will power and supernatural strength you can be freed. Whether you believe it or not, it's worth a shot, if you truly want to be freed that is. What am I saying? Read the Bible, and cast away your demons in Christ's name. Then go from there. It's your life, your choice. Good luck friend.
DeleteNot disagreeing with what you said.
DeleteThe church, or the elders whatever a culture has, should have told more than "masturbation makes you blind". Ok, they did not maybe know what we know now, but I also doubt that if they knew, they would say
"Look, the less porn you watch, the more laid you will get"...
Can't harm the little angels in the community now, can we.
Thanks for reading, and I feel for your stage regarding the effect of porn.
ReplyDeleteYourbrainonporn is a site I give to people who show interest in the idea. My reapization came before finding that site, but that site showed me the why and the how and that I was not a bigot for going against what almost all my peers have been doing in the last twenty years.
An anectode:
"Man, don't you like watching a big hard cock pummeling a pussy? Or do you like to watch flabby soft dickies having sex"
The guy stopped. thought. and said
"Dude. Yea. Strange. I like to watch big black cocks with tiny asian pussies" I know sounds effing cliche.
A lightbulb went off in the guys head. I saw it, it was all over his face.
with me, one moment was in one of the audition type movies. Some east european giant was telling a little east european girl that many men would cut the left nut to marry, how he will first make her choke on his dick, and then screw her, and then put it up her ass, and then come on her face.
It was few years ago. I lightbulb went off in my head.
I saw my confidence drop from 100 to the deep trenches in hell.
"Porn makes you blind".... they said. s always, advice that is designed to never work.
Tell a young kid: "Porn will make your dick softer because you will compare yourself to self selected dicks of size, prowess and duration, some which are surgically enhanced, some which are fisheyed, some which are photoshopped, shooting bottles of nivea oil"
That is advice, not porn makes you blind...
Anon, have you checked the freenortherner's series
https://freenortherner.wordpress.com/category/omegas-guide/
I have not read them, but he is a guy who was in your shoes.
"First answer for the damage that has been done by romance novels. Their unrealistic experiences. Their impossible to attain standards. The white knight in a leather jacket arrives on a motorcycle. He is a bad boy. But he likes her. He is a vampire. But he does not bite her. He smashes fifteen skulls, but makes sure she does not see this brutality, she only knows it. Betrays everyone in sight but not her. Has a sixpack but can take her out to eat pizza in a candlelit diner where the staff are all vampires but out of fear from him, do not drink her dead. Can lift a horse, but never has had to work for his strength. Has time to learn to wield the sword, read thousand classics, and still take her out on romantic flights around the city during sunrise. Vampire, but the sun does not affect him. Because. Because. Of her love."
ReplyDeleteAmazing.
I'm falling in love. With your words.
Now i have to find who that anon is
ReplyDeleteGreat post. 2 months no fap or porn. going crazy but feel my sexual energy rising. Literally going in to the staff toilets at work and just seeing my penis as it should be- healthy and erect. Ugh what a waste porn has been. The smell of a girl is worth so much more. Shake off that shame. So nice waking up without a wank-hangover. 10 yr (no thats a lie- 20 yr porn habit, though a once in a while found magazine was never that damaging as you had fairly real girls in it) habit is leaving the building. Good times, once again great post
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