I received a comment to my previous blog entry about single moms, and gave a reply to it.
Then I decided to modify it a bit and make it a blog post.
The original can be found
here.
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To the second poster.
One, I am almost totally sure this is a female talking.
The used language, which I will quote to give my answers sentence by sentence, just tells me that. Nothing wrong with a female commenter of course.
But something wrong with a cheap attempt in trying to shame men for standing up fr themselves, and also a cheap attempt in defining what a man is.
"The image you are giving of men is pathetic."
Don't try to shame me. The image I give is not pathetic, it is a person who respects his nature and one of his foremost needs. You call it pathetic for the sole reason that it does not serve your purpose. A man who has preferences in a woman is not pathetic, he is picky.
"Really, a real man doesn't consider children as sperm."
Real man. Hmmm... More intended shaming. Who are you to define what a real man is? Maybe we should let the men decide what it is to be "real man"..??? Well, let's redefine sperm as bloodline. And yes, a man considers his children to be HIS legacy, HIS bloodline... Not some other dude's from his lady's past.
And bloodline.. That feeling of bloodline is what has created civilizations, and that is what has caused men so readily to give their lives in wars for the protection of their offspring and women.
Take that away... you take his existence away..
Oh sorry, "Real men" don't need that. Right?
"For a real man it's not that difficult to be an adult friend to a child that's not his"
I accept. But for the child it is said to take two years to accept the man as some kind of authority figure.
A man must love a woman a lot, to undergo that.
"A wise man understands that this kind of things are just that difficult as adults make them. "
A wise woman knows that her choices have consequences.
"And he will be happy because he won't pass the woman of his life just because she's got a child. "
This was a side concept in the story. I was mainly talking about the entitlement the women showed.
And, men need to be as pragmatic as women in these things. Not think with their dicks.
Women are far more realistic than men in relationship issues. A man with an ex-wife problem will easily be overlooked by many women, who in the same time expect eligible men to overlook the two brats they got in tow.
"In this case, there are more wise women than men, I guess?"
Women and men in these cases have very different controlling conditions, so the fact that they make different choices also is based on the fact that they start off at different conditions. Comparing oranges to apples, you cannot say which one is wiser. You can say which one you sympathize more, and why. And I can disagree.
"Oh dear, I feel so sorry for those narrow-minded men."
Shaming shaming...
Narrow minded because they require responsibility from the woman on her choices.. Wow... I thought that was a main condition of being an adult. Responsibility.
"Luckily, I know, there are a lot of wise men too. "
Glad I am not close with any of the men labeled "wise" by this mentality.
"Don't you know couple of them too?"
I know... I know the ones which fot my definition.
Some are honest bachelors living their life to fullest,
Some are good fathers good husbands living their life to fullest, respecting their family and people around them. Striving hard to make a quality life for their family.
All these men hold themselves to high standards, and thus expect high standards from their surroundings.
And if the bachelors one day decide that the kid of woman is not problem, they will be good fathers to that kid.
But if they decide that they want to spend their life raising their own bloodline, that will be their preference, and their way of being evolutionarily wise.
It is interesting how something that serves a natural purpose of the man is so readily rejected by a person, possibly a woman.
Nobody is rejecting the fact that women so openly look for ambition, potential, good job in a man, all which translates into the ability of a man to support a family.
But then when the man wants this family he is going to support for the rest of his life to be his, then it is shallow....
Oh well, I said what is needed to be said.
Monday, March 10, 2008
Friday, January 18, 2008
Wicked Mentality
Ms. Somegirl: “Men are so easy…”
Finndistan :“Depends on the context… We can be easy, very easy, or we can be impossible”
Ms. Somegirl: “No. Men are easy.”
Finndistan: “Ask your friend over here”.. I turn to the single mom “What you think? Are men easy if you want more than sex?”
Ms. Singlemom: “No. Men are so difficult.. I cannot find a man.”
Finndistan: “How old were you? 31?”
Ms. Singlemom: “32”
Finndistan: “Two kids?”
Ms. Singlemom: “Yes, 5, 13”
Finndistan: “Two fathers?” sidenote: at this point I am playing the guessing game
Ms. Singlemom: “Yes”
Finndistan: “Father of the first is an asshole, and he does not help your raise the kid?”
Ms. Singlemom: “Yes.. He was an asshole.”
Finndistan: “Father of the second is also an asshole?”
Ms. Singlemom: “No, he is my best friend.”
Finndistan: “And you are looking for a long term man.”
Ms. Singlemom: “Ooooohhhh… Sooo difficult. I so much want a man to take care of me…. But men are afraid”
…………………………………………………………….
You know, I am not going into the point of a man’s view too much, or at least try not to…
After saying that I am sad for what I heard, she seemed like a likable person…. Let me rant:
Ladies… Please… Please…
What is this entitlement syndrome we see here?
Little princess got knocked up by two different guys… Did not manage/want a relationship with any of them, - no, men are not the only responsible one for a broken relationship - and now is looking for a man to take care of her and two kids, one of who she calls “a crazy girl like me”, who will never accept this guy as a dad with authority over her..
This relationship is mental and financial suicide for any man in her “possible husband” target group, who is heroic enough, or in other words, stupid enough to indulge into this kind of insanity… For a woman who will almost always side with her kids against the father, if the situation arises.
A man who is ready to invest his limited money, energy, and more importantly his not renewable limited source of time, into raising the sperm of other men. This goes against any instinct the man has. Under forty years of age, a man that accepts this is taking a big risk, and is also doing the woman a huge favor. Now, there is also a high possibility that this woman will not appreciate that act….
Added to that, she thinks she is entitled to have a man take up the mess and clean it???
Yes, I do assume there is a mess somewhere…
I may sound harsh, I will not apologize. If this disturbs you, suck it up..
……………………………………………………………
A similar story, different girl:
“Yea, am staying at my friend’s place.. The boys are at their grandma…”
“Boys?”
“I got two sons…”
“Your husband?”
“No.. I have no man..”
“The boys fathers?”
“They are not with me…” notice : they
“Must be difficult…”
“Not too bad… Now I am looking for the man of my life..”
“So now, you’re looking for the man of your life?”
“Yep. The man of my life… nobody around though”
My comment will be same as above. As an addition,
“nobody around” = highly possible she is overpricing herself out of the market.
I may sound harsh, I will not apologize. If this disturbs you, suck it up...
Finndistan :“Depends on the context… We can be easy, very easy, or we can be impossible”
Ms. Somegirl: “No. Men are easy.”
Finndistan: “Ask your friend over here”.. I turn to the single mom “What you think? Are men easy if you want more than sex?”
Ms. Singlemom: “No. Men are so difficult.. I cannot find a man.”
Finndistan: “How old were you? 31?”
Ms. Singlemom: “32”
Finndistan: “Two kids?”
Ms. Singlemom: “Yes, 5, 13”
Finndistan: “Two fathers?” sidenote: at this point I am playing the guessing game
Ms. Singlemom: “Yes”
Finndistan: “Father of the first is an asshole, and he does not help your raise the kid?”
Ms. Singlemom: “Yes.. He was an asshole.”
Finndistan: “Father of the second is also an asshole?”
Ms. Singlemom: “No, he is my best friend.”
Finndistan: “And you are looking for a long term man.”
Ms. Singlemom: “Ooooohhhh… Sooo difficult. I so much want a man to take care of me…. But men are afraid”
…………………………………………………………….
You know, I am not going into the point of a man’s view too much, or at least try not to…
After saying that I am sad for what I heard, she seemed like a likable person…. Let me rant:
Ladies… Please… Please…
What is this entitlement syndrome we see here?
Little princess got knocked up by two different guys… Did not manage/want a relationship with any of them, - no, men are not the only responsible one for a broken relationship - and now is looking for a man to take care of her and two kids, one of who she calls “a crazy girl like me”, who will never accept this guy as a dad with authority over her..
This relationship is mental and financial suicide for any man in her “possible husband” target group, who is heroic enough, or in other words, stupid enough to indulge into this kind of insanity… For a woman who will almost always side with her kids against the father, if the situation arises.
A man who is ready to invest his limited money, energy, and more importantly his not renewable limited source of time, into raising the sperm of other men. This goes against any instinct the man has. Under forty years of age, a man that accepts this is taking a big risk, and is also doing the woman a huge favor. Now, there is also a high possibility that this woman will not appreciate that act….
Added to that, she thinks she is entitled to have a man take up the mess and clean it???
Yes, I do assume there is a mess somewhere…
I may sound harsh, I will not apologize. If this disturbs you, suck it up..
……………………………………………………………
A similar story, different girl:
“Yea, am staying at my friend’s place.. The boys are at their grandma…”
“Boys?”
“I got two sons…”
“Your husband?”
“No.. I have no man..”
“The boys fathers?”
“They are not with me…” notice : they
“Must be difficult…”
“Not too bad… Now I am looking for the man of my life..”
“So now, you’re looking for the man of your life?”
“Yep. The man of my life… nobody around though”
My comment will be same as above. As an addition,
“nobody around” = highly possible she is overpricing herself out of the market.
I may sound harsh, I will not apologize. If this disturbs you, suck it up...
Sunday, October 21, 2007
Women and titles
Part of “World through women’s eyes” series
So, in these series I mention things which show me women think mankind exists only in a way women feel is true about it. That they think the ultimate existence is only as it is seen through their own eyes. The universal truth is what they think to be true. That truth is defined as they feel it to be.
Friend’s party, by the fire grilling makkara, another guy’s girlfriend sitting on the same log as me,
“What do you do” she asks,
“Working on my PhD, research” I say… “What about you?” I ask, and get an answer which I still laugh at even today:
Proudly head lifts up, the tone of voice changes, “I am the Assistant Human Resources Manager”… Sadly the way she said it cannot be translated to text. That, in a company of 200…. Possibly there is the manager and three other personnel in the department… one manager and three assistants…
Read again, she is not saying “Human Resources Managers Assistant”…
Not the first woman who tells me about some flashy title that turns out to be a normal job.
A job which you have to make your living, not so that you can impress people with titles.
Of course she is to be proud of having achievements in life, that is only natural.. but.. but…
I have no problem with someone saying “I work in human resources” “I work for company xyz, human resources” etc etc… Goddamn it, if that was General Motors, I would understand the manager having some assistant positions open as high positions…
Fuck, in that case I am Department head’s assistant…. Or shall I say
“I am a science researcher engineer working in the medical field, assisting doctors with my extensive research about life saving crucial medical instrumentation, planning to make a few millions in the next ten years…”
No,
“I am a researcher”
I don’t need a flash my title… Nor do I need a flashy title….
“World exists only through women’s eyes” point:
Women like/need a man with a future (of course when the clock is ticking, when the baby fever has hit, when the baby rabies is in the body, otherwise criteria are different), a man who has provider potential, and a title is one of the best indicators of this current/future earning potential…
So, on the flip side, they think we men are also looking for a flashy title when selecting women…
Newsflash!!!!!!!:
Truth is soooooo faaaaaaaar awaaaaaay…..
Ah yea, if you are a man, and say “Well a flashy title is a top priority characteristic of a woman I want as the mother of my kids, you are so shallow”, well, go and date some hideous woman C.E.O… If you are not willing to do that, then don’t f’ing lie, grab your balls and ask them to forgive you….
..If you are a woman, as seen, your points of views may not be true… So, no point in disagreeing with me……..
I am having so much fun now.
So, in these series I mention things which show me women think mankind exists only in a way women feel is true about it. That they think the ultimate existence is only as it is seen through their own eyes. The universal truth is what they think to be true. That truth is defined as they feel it to be.
Friend’s party, by the fire grilling makkara, another guy’s girlfriend sitting on the same log as me,
“What do you do” she asks,
“Working on my PhD, research” I say… “What about you?” I ask, and get an answer which I still laugh at even today:
Proudly head lifts up, the tone of voice changes, “I am the Assistant Human Resources Manager”… Sadly the way she said it cannot be translated to text. That, in a company of 200…. Possibly there is the manager and three other personnel in the department… one manager and three assistants…
Read again, she is not saying “Human Resources Managers Assistant”…
Not the first woman who tells me about some flashy title that turns out to be a normal job.
A job which you have to make your living, not so that you can impress people with titles.
Of course she is to be proud of having achievements in life, that is only natural.. but.. but…
I have no problem with someone saying “I work in human resources” “I work for company xyz, human resources” etc etc… Goddamn it, if that was General Motors, I would understand the manager having some assistant positions open as high positions…
Fuck, in that case I am Department head’s assistant…. Or shall I say
“I am a science researcher engineer working in the medical field, assisting doctors with my extensive research about life saving crucial medical instrumentation, planning to make a few millions in the next ten years…”
No,
“I am a researcher”
I don’t need a flash my title… Nor do I need a flashy title….
“World exists only through women’s eyes” point:
Women like/need a man with a future (of course when the clock is ticking, when the baby fever has hit, when the baby rabies is in the body, otherwise criteria are different), a man who has provider potential, and a title is one of the best indicators of this current/future earning potential…
So, on the flip side, they think we men are also looking for a flashy title when selecting women…
Newsflash!!!!!!!:
Truth is soooooo faaaaaaaar awaaaaaay…..
Ah yea, if you are a man, and say “Well a flashy title is a top priority characteristic of a woman I want as the mother of my kids, you are so shallow”, well, go and date some hideous woman C.E.O… If you are not willing to do that, then don’t f’ing lie, grab your balls and ask them to forgive you….
..If you are a woman, as seen, your points of views may not be true… So, no point in disagreeing with me……..
I am having so much fun now.
Morning time in Helsinki.. Sunday morning.
More than a year ago,
A ship cruise of two days with forty people has ended.. we are walking to get the car to drive back home.. Devastated..
And there she is, walking – more like, dragging herself, crawling, - beside us, tiny girl.. By tiny I mean close to 1.60 and not more than 40 kg’s. One of the party people..
Carrying a few bottles wine in bags, and an apparently heavy backpack.
My buddy, the incurable nice gentleman, offers her:
“Hey, our car is in same direction as you are going, so we are walking a long way together, and you look like you are suffering.. Let me help you”
“No thanks”
“At least let me help carrying the bags, one side you, one side me, you are suffering there”
“No. I am an independent strong Finnish woman”…
Well, suffer then. But don’t blame me, or my fellow men for anything….
Then, my incurable buddy asks her if she wants to join us for breakfast, as we are hungry,
“Thanks, my boyfriend is waiting home, I gotta go, or he’ll be angry”
So much for independence.. and strength…
What she saying is basically:
- I am independent and strong when I feel like it, and am fragile and need care when I feel like it. A man has to know what I need from looking at my face. My needs may and will change anytime for any reason or no reason, and the man has to know this, from… looking at my face.
Oh man, the boyfriend has no idea what kind of storm will be hitting him in the near future.
A ship cruise of two days with forty people has ended.. we are walking to get the car to drive back home.. Devastated..
And there she is, walking – more like, dragging herself, crawling, - beside us, tiny girl.. By tiny I mean close to 1.60 and not more than 40 kg’s. One of the party people..
Carrying a few bottles wine in bags, and an apparently heavy backpack.
My buddy, the incurable nice gentleman, offers her:
“Hey, our car is in same direction as you are going, so we are walking a long way together, and you look like you are suffering.. Let me help you”
“No thanks”
“At least let me help carrying the bags, one side you, one side me, you are suffering there”
“No. I am an independent strong Finnish woman”…
Well, suffer then. But don’t blame me, or my fellow men for anything….
Then, my incurable buddy asks her if she wants to join us for breakfast, as we are hungry,
“Thanks, my boyfriend is waiting home, I gotta go, or he’ll be angry”
So much for independence.. and strength…
What she saying is basically:
- I am independent and strong when I feel like it, and am fragile and need care when I feel like it. A man has to know what I need from looking at my face. My needs may and will change anytime for any reason or no reason, and the man has to know this, from… looking at my face.
Oh man, the boyfriend has no idea what kind of storm will be hitting him in the near future.
Saturday, October 06, 2007
Finndistan – Resurrection
I would call this a re-awakening, but it is more of a resurrection. After Finndistan was put to sleep by me two years ago, that was a fate worse than death for the stories that should not be lost.
I am glad to karma or whatever force there is surrounding us, I call it Life, but that is not the scope of this blog, that it gave me the specific reason which made me not want to continue writing.
But now, I am back, and I will continue reporting.
I will though, unlike previously, add my comments to the end of the stories, arrogantly, shallowly, preschingly and maybe coming across as a male chauvinist…
I call it realism.
I assure you, the main point will be still to make you laugh.
As I have had my laughs when I wrote Finndistan…
Of course, have to mention the occasional face which is full of rage…
Welcome back, to me and to you,
Below are the first three opening stories, hope you enjoy!!
Will give my best to deserve your audience!!!
The Finndistan Man
I am glad to karma or whatever force there is surrounding us, I call it Life, but that is not the scope of this blog, that it gave me the specific reason which made me not want to continue writing.
But now, I am back, and I will continue reporting.
I will though, unlike previously, add my comments to the end of the stories, arrogantly, shallowly, preschingly and maybe coming across as a male chauvinist…
I call it realism.
I assure you, the main point will be still to make you laugh.
As I have had my laughs when I wrote Finndistan…
Of course, have to mention the occasional face which is full of rage…
Welcome back, to me and to you,
Below are the first three opening stories, hope you enjoy!!
Will give my best to deserve your audience!!!
The Finndistan Man
Intelligence skyhigh... ??
Met this young man through a good friend’s tutor in a bar.
Young guy, guessing early twenties.
All night I had been having a lot of fun with the guys, so I am overall in friendly mood.
I get introduced to this shaved head kid, with a d'Artagnan beard.
Blab la bla, blab la…. Bla..
Then he asks me,
« Where you from ? »
« Half German, Half Turkish..... Your skin is too dark for a Finn, where are you from ? »
There I asked it, the kid with the funny beard leans back, puts a smile to his face… A smile, as slimey as it gets, a smile you see on the kids which managed to have their first poo by themselves, the face on the teenager proud to have gotten his first girlfriend, the face on the person who is extremely proud of himself of have found an witty clever thing to say, pride mixed with slime, and that mixed with the vanity of youth,
He answers:
“I am half finnish” stops for five secs, the smile deepening, “half asshole….”
……………………………………….
Why on earth do I have to encounter these people?
Young guy, guessing early twenties.
All night I had been having a lot of fun with the guys, so I am overall in friendly mood.
I get introduced to this shaved head kid, with a d'Artagnan beard.
Blab la bla, blab la…. Bla..
Then he asks me,
« Where you from ? »
« Half German, Half Turkish..... Your skin is too dark for a Finn, where are you from ? »
There I asked it, the kid with the funny beard leans back, puts a smile to his face… A smile, as slimey as it gets, a smile you see on the kids which managed to have their first poo by themselves, the face on the teenager proud to have gotten his first girlfriend, the face on the person who is extremely proud of himself of have found an witty clever thing to say, pride mixed with slime, and that mixed with the vanity of youth,
He answers:
“I am half finnish” stops for five secs, the smile deepening, “half asshole….”
……………………………………….
Why on earth do I have to encounter these people?
Yippie... She fucked Canada...
Started talking with her as we were on the same table. cute blond girl. My friend talking to her friend, so I gotta keep her busy...
Long story short, five minutes into the convo she asked me what sports I do, and as I was bored out of my mind, I told her about the one year I played american football as a guard.
Before I could breath...
"American football??? Wow.. I love aggressive sports like that and hockey.. The players are so sexy……. Last week I fucked a canadian national hockey team player who was here for a match"
OUT.... I AM OUT.. OUT OUT OUT OUT....... GONE…
What the fuck???? She thinks that is sexy???? Not the first time I hear this... Do women think it is sexy????
Fuck...
Who cares?
You opened your legs, he got his magic pole up, you people had your fun... so what??? Why brag about it??
Who f'ing cares?
Do what you do, I do not give a damn. If you need to brag about it, get the fuck away from my face.
Finndistan says:
Do women think that this makes them more wanted? Makes them have a higher value???
Makes me think I am not too far off from truth when I say women cannot see the world in eyes other than their own.. About this I will have many more posts, but let me give two points which exist in this spectacular encounter:
1. Women like men who are taken/ who have good looking women with them. - don't even try to disagree with this... not worth arguing over this - Somehow this makes the man a special one, wanted by other women, so he must have the golden member or something. Need to get this man, no matter what.
So, men should also like women who hang out with boys, and women who are wanted by
other men.
You know what, men do not care if the woman is wanted by other men, or not.. He wants her, that is enough for him. And then, a woman with a man beside her, is just not a target. She could not exist if you ask us, we don't f'ing care. She is taken, so be it. Neeeeeeeext......
2. Women like men who have been with celebrities.. See point 1, the same thing: He is a wanted man.
So, men should think there is something special about women who have bedded celebrities...
but, as men, if we hear she has bedded a celebrity on the same night which she met, that does not say anything good about her to us.. Ok, not necessarily anything bad either, but definitely nothing good, except, that she is good for "hit and run"... - btw don't bullshit me about men using women, you do not want a ten page reply... if I will not reply as, "get the fuck outta here".....
3. And women thinking they can brag to a man about the other dicks on earth they have bedded,…. Oh please, please…. We are men, not women…. So I am skipping this point as it is utterly pointless to start by saying “men and women are not same”… If I have to explain something starting with this sentence, there is no point… and no hope of getting the point in the thick skull of the deluded “We are same” believers.
More to come on this, stay tuned....
Long story short, five minutes into the convo she asked me what sports I do, and as I was bored out of my mind, I told her about the one year I played american football as a guard.
Before I could breath...
"American football??? Wow.. I love aggressive sports like that and hockey.. The players are so sexy……. Last week I fucked a canadian national hockey team player who was here for a match"
OUT.... I AM OUT.. OUT OUT OUT OUT....... GONE…
What the fuck???? She thinks that is sexy???? Not the first time I hear this... Do women think it is sexy????
Fuck...
Who cares?
You opened your legs, he got his magic pole up, you people had your fun... so what??? Why brag about it??
Who f'ing cares?
Do what you do, I do not give a damn. If you need to brag about it, get the fuck away from my face.
Finndistan says:
Do women think that this makes them more wanted? Makes them have a higher value???
Makes me think I am not too far off from truth when I say women cannot see the world in eyes other than their own.. About this I will have many more posts, but let me give two points which exist in this spectacular encounter:
1. Women like men who are taken/ who have good looking women with them. - don't even try to disagree with this... not worth arguing over this - Somehow this makes the man a special one, wanted by other women, so he must have the golden member or something. Need to get this man, no matter what.
So, men should also like women who hang out with boys, and women who are wanted by
other men.
You know what, men do not care if the woman is wanted by other men, or not.. He wants her, that is enough for him. And then, a woman with a man beside her, is just not a target. She could not exist if you ask us, we don't f'ing care. She is taken, so be it. Neeeeeeeext......
2. Women like men who have been with celebrities.. See point 1, the same thing: He is a wanted man.
So, men should think there is something special about women who have bedded celebrities...
but, as men, if we hear she has bedded a celebrity on the same night which she met, that does not say anything good about her to us.. Ok, not necessarily anything bad either, but definitely nothing good, except, that she is good for "hit and run"... - btw don't bullshit me about men using women, you do not want a ten page reply... if I will not reply as, "get the fuck outta here".....
3. And women thinking they can brag to a man about the other dicks on earth they have bedded,…. Oh please, please…. We are men, not women…. So I am skipping this point as it is utterly pointless to start by saying “men and women are not same”… If I have to explain something starting with this sentence, there is no point… and no hope of getting the point in the thick skull of the deluded “We are same” believers.
More to come on this, stay tuned....
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